In an article by Earl Nightingale, The Fog of Worry, he tells us:
- 40 percent of the things you worry about will never occur.
- Things over and past that can’t be changed by all the worry in the world: 30 percent.
- Needless worries about our health: 12 percent.
- Petty, miscellaneous worries: 10 percent.
- Real, legitimate worries: 8 percent. Only 8 percent of your worries are worth concerning yourself about. Ninety-two percent are pure fog with no substance at all.
Retired U.S. Navy SEAL Admiral William H. McRaven explains how dealing with workplace bullies is a lot like confronting great white sharks: confront them, stand up to them. Too often, we refuse to confront the fears that bully us; we avoid facing them, and we hide away by being busy, in social media, addictions, sport, and other distractions.
Then, at night, insomnia and exaggerations of our fears steal our sleep and health. Always, our fears are just under the surface, sabotaging our success, holding us back, stunting our growth, stealing our joy and peace of mind, preventing our optimal performance and creativity, like spoilt, naughty children or demanding spouses.
Peace of mind and freedom from fear is available. Dale Carnegie’s How To Stop Worrying And Start Living is a self-help classic which addresses one of the leading causes of physical illness, worry, by showing you simple and actionable techniques to eliminate it from your life. I highly recommend it. The most important thing I learnt from it was to analyze the facts and figure out my options; create a plan of action, a way out.
I take the following 6 steps:
- Set aside a quiet, undisturbed time in which to confront my worries.
- Pray for God’s perspective – an eternal perspective – on my worries. I know He is faithful and omniscient.
- Discuss my concerns with a trusted advisor who has a successful track record and no vested interest in the solution he proposes.
- Read about how others solved similar problems.
- Analyze the facts and figure out my options and create a plan of action.
- Take daily action to overcome and eradicate those problems that I can – the eight percent.
You CAN overcome worry.