Choosing employees, associates, business partners, joint venture partners, friends, or a spouse? Here is some ancient wisdom that I would like to extrapolate upon:
“Doth a fountain send forth at the same place sweet water and bitter? Can the fig tree, my brethren, bear olive berries? either a vine, figs? So can no fountain both yield salt water and fresh.” ~ James 3: 11,12
The illusion that people change, when the rarity thereof should be blindingly clear to anyone over the age of thirty-five unless you’re a Millenial – most agree Millenials were born between 1978-1998 – whose ridiculous opinions and beliefs are apparent to all.
It therefore makes sense that we should carefully evaluate the backgrounds and track records of those we consider for any kind of meaningful relationship, instead of sniffing the glue of political “correctness” and “we’re all the same” and “there are no races, sexes, or classes.” That is simply Cultural Marxist ideology, accepted by the brainwashes masses and designed to destroy families, the genes of superior beings, and self-reliance.
Don’t believe what they say or value their “college” credentials, their “testimonials,” or other lies and props; check for yourself. Talk is cheap, but money buys the whiskey. Want to know if they smoke? Stick a cigarette in your mouth and offer them one. Show up at their home unexpectedly.
Take a good, hard look at their family structure growing up, their accomplishments and failures throughout their lives so far, their religions, values, ambitions, goals, friends, associates, Facebook pages, clothes, personal grooming, addictions, habits, diets, physical state, and language, including vocabulary and general knowledge.
I ask people the hard questions in such a way that they don’t even know what I am searching for or that I am delving deep. I want to avoid the bitter water, unacceptable fruit, and salt water James referred to, as well as ugly closet skeletons that will be back to haunt us and dishonesty, disloyalty, and sabotage that we have all been subjected to by choosing the wrong people.
Will we still make mistakes? Of course we will, but we will make less of them. Being selective and choosing quality over quantity, testing people before opening your heart, your books, and your checkbook, and having them prove themselves is a wise way to go when you have anything to lose, especially your most valuable and indeed irreplaceable resource, time. The bucolic scene I photographed above is a good example: walk closer to the water and you will find your shoes sinking into in a smelly, muddy swamp.
Don’t be a rescuer; leave that to the altruists and the silly buggers who feel important dealing with people at lower stations than themselves, because they usually end up being the victims of the very snakes they rescue.