This car, or that figure, or a drug, or another restaurant, or a fancy watch – the media constantly pitches bandaids and false, temporary relief to mask the real cause of “unhappiness.” You’ll be happy WHEN… You’ll be happy IF… And sadly, the average North materialistic North American is so badly educated and brainwashed that he falls for the lie.
The fact is, for most of us, “happiness” means the escape from or relief of some kind of suffering – physical, emotional, social, mental, financial. Suffering is universal and inescapable. If you are human, you experience different kinds of suffering until you die. The Buddha taught the Four Noble Truths and the Eightfold Path to remedy the problem of suffering. Of course, Christianity also offers solutions, as do all other religions, philosophies, belief systems, and value systems.
A lot of the time, changing the stories we tell ourselves about our perceived suffering can actually solve the problem. A new perspective and applied meaning can do wonders.
I would like to offer a simple, additional solution that has worked for me all my life.
- Identify the cause of your present unhappiness.
- Consider the solutions you are aware of, and if you can’t find a solution, seek help from someone who has dealt successfully with the problem before and ask for their suggestions.
- Create an action plan if there is, indeed, a way for you to reduce the suffering. If there isn’t a way to reduce it, seek coping mechanisms that are helpful, healthy, and solid. For example, if I needed help coping with the death of a loved one, I would seek advice from someone who had successfully dealt with it in a positive manner, not some strung-out junkie or someone who held an “impressive” office but had no personal experience dealing with he issue at hand.
- Work on the solution daily, persistently, and conscientiously until you can move on. Focus on the solution and desired outcome instead of the problem itself. Where focus goes, energy flows, and results grow. Rejoice in the skills you learn along the way, the people you meet, and the personal growth you enjoy because of the problem instead of wailing about how “unfair” life is, like a spoilt brat. “I wouldn’t have learnt that, met her, or developed patience if it wasn’t for that problem.” We can get bitter or we can get better.
- Use what you have learnt to help others. I use the business and entrepreneurial skills I have acquired in 31 years of business to help others to achieve financial success and independence but inviting them to join me in my latest and greatest business creation. Zig Ziglar famously said, “You can get anything you want out of life if you’re prepared to help enough other people to get what they want.”
Finally, surround yourself with people who are smarter, healthier, wiser, wealthier, more experienced, better connected, more motivated, and have better skills than you have. Read books by authors with great minds. Avoid filling your mind with the refuse churned out by state media propaganda machines, government “education” systems, and losers, and focus on what is good, wholesome, helpful, and healthy. Ron Brundel said that we are all part of someone’s “Care Package” at any given time. Be helpful and kind to those who deserve it. To animals, too.
Avoid filling your mind with the refuse churned out by state media propaganda machines, government “education” systems, and losers, and focus on what is good, wholesome, helpful, healthy, uplifting and positive, while at the same time educating yourself to be aware of and know your enemies, and the political/social/economic state of the world. In this turbulent time of Cultural Marxist “Political Correctness” and the enthronement by the state of all that is perverse and deviant and anti-European, this is very important. Be prepared.