Imagine if you could predict, with accuracy, whether or not someone you hardly knew would succeed or fail in a particular venture? Well, this is not foolproof, but let me illustrate my point to you and then reveal the key.
She makes excuses about not getting exercise and constantly complains about her aches and pains – imagined or real. She talks about food a lot. Her favourite pastime is sedentary. She is seriously obese and feels she is a victim. Do you think she will lose weight, win a running race, or ever get healthy? Do you think she might suffer from diabetes, heart disease, and bad knees and hips in the future?
He regularly makes remarks that indicate his vast superiority to other mortals, in spite of the fact that he does a minimum wage job and has little or no ambition to improve on it while his debts increase. He seldom compliments his hard working, high achiever wife, is out of shape, is happy to allow her to support him financially, and only keeps his low level job because she insists he does so. How long do you think that marriage will last? How long does he keep a job? Will he ever be promoted?
As we see, what people talk about is what they focus on, and as someone said, “Where focus goes, energy flows, and results grow.” We talk about the world as we see it and we create that world as we speak. Your life is always moving towards that upon which you focus. You amplify, enable, and attract it. Focusing on your painful past or your weaknesses is a surefire way to failure in the future.
I see business owners focusing on the process instead of the results they intend to achieve. They major in minors and miss the big picture. Others focus on the reasons why things won’t work, so guess what? They don’t. There are those whose focus in business is to feel important rather than to make a profit. So they don’t make a profit and people don’t think they’re important.
Phil Knight said, “We wanted Nike to be the world’s best sports and fitness company. Once you say that, you have a focus. You don’t end up making wing tips or sponsoring the next Rolling Stones world tour.”
Focus on your strengths and complement your weaknesses through the strengths of others. Manage your thoughts and your words carefully, because you are creating a focus for your readers and listeners, but also for your own mind.
Finally, the people with whom we regularly associate will, to a great extent, affect our focus and therefore our direction in life.
Robin Elliott LeverageAdvantage.com