Viktor Frankl wrote, “Between stimulus and response, there is a space. In that space lies our freedom and power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and freedom.” Why is it so difficult to make the right choice? And how can we make better choices in order to improve our lives?
Sometimes, we just feel washed out, like there is no more fight left in us.
Indeed, a few smart choices, made consistently, can dramatically change one’s life, and faster than most people think. Lao Tzu wrote, “If you correct your mind, the rest of your life will fall into place.”All we need to do is to recognize these barriers in order to overcome them and make all our dreams come true:
1. Comfort Zone: Associate more pain to staying where you are than to the pain of making the change.
2. Mentors: Allowing yourself to be mentored by someone who has never really achieved anything significant in any area of their lives is not a smart thing to do. Your mentors and role models should be carefully selected. Follow their advice.
3. Support groups make it easier or harder to thrive, depending on whom you hang with. If birds of the feather flock together, “who are you flocking with?”
4. Fear of success – are you inadvertently associating pain with the success you claim to be working to achieve?
5. Asking for help: Pride sometimes prevents one from simply asking for assistance and guidance from those who have walked the path before us. It’s like asking for directions.
6. Presumption: Sometimes, we assume and presume without checking the facts. This is why we need objective support from one who cares, but cares enough to confront us and tell us the truth.
7. Conditioning: If your conditioning is revealed as a stumbling block or barrier, hook up with someone who has better programing. We can replace our weaknesses with the strengths of another, and vice versa.
8. Sticking to a Success Recipe: It’s easy to wander off course, improvise, cut corners, and reinvent the wheel, however when we are presented with a formula for success, we need to stick to it like super glue.
9. Self esteem: The quickest way to correct this, apart from support groups and mentors with whom you meet regularly, is self discipline – exercising self discipline in one area of your life will affect your self image and self respect in all other areas.
10. Comparisons: Compare yourself with who you were and what you accomplished yesterday, not with others. Congratulate yourself for small successes; don’t beat yourself up for small failures. After all, you only fail when you quit, and you can always quit quitting!
Robin Elliott LeverageAdvantage.com