You’ve heard about the frog in a pan of cold water on the stove. Slowly the water heats up and the frog gradually adjusts and get used to it until it’s too hot and he simply keels over – dead. The heat sort of creeps up on one. We conform, justify, overlook, adapt to the increasing heat. Until we’re dead in the water, so to speak. What are the symptoms?
1. No new information, contacts, seminars, books read, outside of our comfort zone.
New information will question, challenge, throw cold water in one’s face, reveal discrepancies and alert one to options, opportunities, threats and danger. Seeking out evidence to support our dominant beliefs will heat the water faster.
2. No new contacts, new connections, new meetings, new associations. People sometimes give us clues, advice, suggestions that can show us how far we’ve drifted from our core values, or major goals. They can help us get back on track. But those who are in the same boat with us sans oars will simply cheer us on towards the waterfall.
3. Bad Patterns. Heading further and further into debt, not keeping employees for long, losing new recruits too soon, fighting with our spouses, partners, employees, kids, suppliers more frequently, getting items returned, slowing sales. An objective analysis will reveal these trends.
4. Aggression, depression, increased stress and sleeplessness. This is a symptom that we subconsciously realize we’re on the wrong track.
5. Gambling, drugs (including alcohol, coffee, nicotine, pot), reckless spending, promiscuity, hiding (isolation, wanting to be alone too much, not showing up at work, arriving late).
6. Unnecessary justification, being oversensitive – “thou protesteth too much.”
Should you feel it may be likely that you’re in hot water up to your neck, I suggest you seek out a trusted mentor or adviser and ask him or her to check the temperature for you, then provide a few suggestions. Sometimes, solutions are easier than one may expect when one is all steamed up.
Robin Elliott Leverageadvantage.com